Have you ever had a plan or something you look forward to, and it feels SO RIGHT, you REALLY want to achieve it, experience it?...but...
punctually, something stops you all the time? Every single time, something happens that delays or even completely stops your plans, and you end up staying where you are, doing what you do.
It may be that you SABOTAGE YOURSELF.
I did it to myself for years!
So -regrettably- I'm an expert on this topic!
Fortunately, thanks to my spiritual work, all the yoga, the meditation, the breathing, and tons of awareness, I have learned to recognize my disruptive patterns and take control of my mind.
First of all: how do you recognize when you are sabotaging yourself?
Have a look at the graphic below: you can do it in many ways, but these 3 are the most common ones:
Let's have a closer look:
1. Procrastination, staying within your comfort zone, avoiding change.
Your goal is clear in your head: it may be a book you are writing or a project you are working on. You know that you might step into a new phase of your life once you finish it. Isn't it awesome?
Apparently, for the Ego, it isn't!
The Ego loves the known, the usual patterns, with the usual outcome and the usual feelings.
The Ego fears the unknown, the new habits, and taking actions without knowing what will happen afterward.
2. Perfectionism, setting goals that are too high or too low to ensure success.
You see a job that fits you perfectly, you are thinking of opening a Youtube channel or exposing yourself to public speaking.
You love the idea, make plans, even buy the equipment you need, BUt then...you start seeing all the things you still cannot do, or the equipment you don't have.
And you convince yourself that you are not yet ready to do XYZ.
Does it sound familiar?
3. Weak personal boundaries.
Someone asks you to join a party, and you don't want to go because you plan to work on your project. Nevertheless, you say yes, even if you wanted to say no.
You invest time in something that drains your energy instead of replenishing it, just to please other people and be sure they keep liking you. You are afraid that saying "no" will ruin your relationship with that person.
What a mess the human mind is!
Why do we do this to ourselves?
The root cause of self-sabotage is a weakness in your energy field that prevents you from creating change.
Your energy field is weak and has low vibrations when you have unhealed childhood wounds; you feel unworthy, not good enough, have a fear of change, a controlling Ego, and a solid attachment to known and familiar situations. Last but not least, you feel unworthy of a better reality, so you convince yourself that you will fail and stop yourself from changing.
The profound root of this energetic weakness is a misalignment in your chakras (energy centers).
Healing and aligning your Chakras is the number one tool to get unstuck and move forward quickly. It's a deep energy work that I offer in my 1:1 coaching program, Alignment Accelerator. Check it out, and if you feel you may want to go deeper, go ahead and book a free call with me.
Still, there is some important work on yourself you can do!
Based on my personal experience and energy work, I have created a mini-workbook that you can download for free by typing your name and email address in the form below:
This mini-workbook is a formidable tool to build awareness around your behavioral patterns and new, healthier habits.
It's packed with journaling prompts and space for reflection.
It unfolds in the 6 steps you can see in the graphic below:
What are you waiting for? Download your copy and start working!
Then you can absolutely STOP sabotaging yourself and move quickly towards your dreams.